Comments on: Why Would Someone Who Had Been Diagnosed With A Type Of Cancer Pretend Like Everything Was Totally Fine &?

By: Tomm70

Tomm70 — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:08:01 +0000

well denial is the first stage, so yes, its pretty normal to convince yourself that everything is fine. if its lymphoma, then she can start treatment as soon as she gets back. i know that is horrible to wait even a day, but she convinced herself that she was fine. i hope she can get a grasp on this because she can totally make a full recovery and be a survivor, good luck

By: Adrienne

Adrienne — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:25:18 +0000

Denial sounds right. My sister’s friend had Hodgkins at the same age, and it’s treatable if you catch it early. She did the whole whole chemo thing, lost her hair- I thought she wouldn’t make it. She’s 39 and has 3 kids, which was supposed to be impossible. Have you talked to her parents about it? Maybe you can gang up on her. She’s scared. Sometimes it’s easier when someone tells you what to do. Poor thing.

By: kiowa89

kiowa89 — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:19:06 +0000

It sounds like she has accepted it, but she is trying not to let it get her to down, and keep her form living. Maybe she is just trying to be strong for you and for her family. And if there is treatment then perhaps she is just being hopeful. (:

By: cricketl

cricketl — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:07:31 +0000

She’s in denial and most likely shock at her age. I think at some point she would “accept” it and fight it like heck. Right now it’s to much to accept–she just can’t right now.

By: JXCB

JXCB — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:11:45 +0000

She is fine with it because she’s already accepted her death.

By: IM A ZOMBEEE EAT MY SHET

IM A ZOMBEEE EAT MY SHET — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:39:25 +0000

she is in denial she has heard a lot of things about how ppl with cancer die all the time she is scared you need to get her home and treated she needs everyones support

By: Anastasi

Anastasi — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:33:15 +0000

Hi, firstly I believe you and if my best friend was in this position, I’d be doing everything I could to try and understand what’s going on so I get why your asking this question more than once.
I think like many other people said she is probably in denial and I dont think she’s meaning to lie but she just is convincing herself she’s fine even though that’s irrational. She also probably doesn’t want to face reality and going to another country is probably one of the most effective ways to get away from your trouble.
The fact that high schools ending and she’s going onto college means it’s most likely a big period of change and the cancer scare on top of this would be very hard to handle even for the most mature of people. Also if she has a fear of needle’s and hospitals thats obviously going to make it worse.
I have known quite a few people who usually mature happy and bright when faced with extreme fear or grief have behaved extremely irrational but still understandably so. Bottling up and blocking out feelings is most likely just going to make things worse for your friend.
Do the people who she is with in china know what is going on with her. Even if she doesn’t want them too you should try and tell them as they could help convince her to go home. I don’t know how you are going to bring her home against her will but I hope she will soon realize what she is doing is not helping and come home on her own. Otherwise hopefully her step-dad can get another flight, find her and bring her home.
I hope every thing works out and that your friend is ok!